Say Something Nice

I remember when I was practising my vocal solo for the A.C.E. Convention I was feeling pretty stink because I could not get the timing right and I thought my voice sounded dreadful. But when a friend heard me singing and said I had a great voice and that he was nervous about competing against me for he was also doing a vocal solo I immediately felt "ten feet off the ground." My friend never knew the impact his encouraging words had on me, but without them I probably would have never been able to sing my solo.

Words are powerful. They can bring life or death into someone's life.

When a person (especially a guy) says to a girl that she is ugly or comments negatively about her looks in any way, she will often take it it heart and will start believing that maybe she isn't pretty and that no one could love her. Even if what you said was in jest!

Ephesians 4:29 says, "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen."


So guys, let us build up our sisters in Christ. Tell her she is beautiful or give a word of encouragement. Oh, by the way girls, the reason why guys won't always say you're beautiful is because we are too darn scared. This is because us guys can have major self-confidence issues. I know I do. But, this is where you girls can help. You can give us the confidence boost we need. You see, whenever us guys do something that is outside our comfort zone like giving a speech, leading an activity or even just opening a door for a girl, we always wonder what people think about us. And if nobody says anything we often assume the worst and come to the conclusion that everyone thought what we did was lame or done badly. So if you have a friend who may have just delivered a speech tell him it was great and what parts you enjoyed. Likewise, if he leads something, thank him. Whenever he moves outside his comfort zone encourage him.

Words can make or ruin someone's day. You have the power. So, face your fears encourage each other. Tell her she is beautiful or tell him he is awesome. Go out of your way today and encourage someone. '...a word spoken at the right moment - how good it is' (Proverbs 15:23). Encouragement and nice words spoken - this is one of the ways we can shine the light of Christ.