Four Steps to Face Your Fear

When I started on this journey to face all my fears I really wished I had a set formula to help me over come fear. Unfortunately such a thing does not exist because fear does not actually go away until you have done what you where afraid of. But all the same I wanted to share with you the four key steps I took when I faced my fear of "singing in front of people."

1. Yes, That Scares Me

The first thing we need to do in the journey to face our fears is to identify them This step is easy to because we all know what we are scared of. It might be telling your friends about Christ or talking to the girl/guy who is new at school and has no friends. My big fear however was singing in front of people.

2. Get Accountable

This step is super important, yet so many people skip it and thus never do what scares them. You see, when we get accountable and tell people what and when we are going to do something we must do it because if we don't we look like the world's biggest hypocrites.

When I wanted to overcome my singing in public phobia I told over almost a hundred people that I would sing a male solo on stage. Now, if I chickened out of this one (and believe me I almost did) I would look like a massive hypocrite in front of my whole school. This accountability was the thing that kept me from making excuses and looking for ways to skip the solo.

3. Practice, Practice, Practice

You heard the saying that practice makes perfect. Well I'm here today to tell you that this statement is a whole load of... Truth.

Unfortunately there is no fast way to get good at something. Everything worth doing takes time and practice.

When I said I would perform a vocal solo I knew it would take a lot of practice. Thankfully I had been having singing lessons. Thankfully I had six months before the day I said to would do it. So guess what I did for those six months. Yeah, that's right, I practised, practised and practised some more.

4. Just Do It

This is by far the hardest step out of the four. The climax, the end, the showdown, the final frontier! Or also known as the part where you actually do what you are deathly afraid of.

When the time came for me to walk on to the stage and perform my vocal solo I felt fear in all its dreadful strength. I had so much self-doubt and kept asking myself why the heck I was doing this, but when I actually started and got into my song all the fear left me. That's why, when the time comes there is no magic word or prayer that will make the fear go away. The only thing you want do is "Just do it."



"Courage is not the absence of fear, but the ability to face it." - Lt. John B. Putnam Jr. (1921-1944)

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